How to Handle A Well Endowed Partner: Lube and Foreplay

Her discussion on different types of lubricants was very informative!

Nice Girls Like Sex Too

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October is National KINK Month!

Are you ready?!?! I am.
Dr. C.

Jealousy: The Proverbial ‘Elephant in the Room’ for Many Alternative Relationships

Jealousy is a natural human emotion.

It can be both a blessing and a curse…strengthening or destroying, our love relationships.

I think of jealousy as more of a “signal”…telling us when our boundaries have been crossed and when we need to check our own insecurities.

For those of us in alternative or polyamorous relationships, jealousy can (if not fully accepted and explored) become a dangerous and ultimately damaging force.

Recently, I stumbled across a new book, “The Jealousy Workbook: Exercises and Insights for Managing Open Relationships,” by Kathy Labriola (Greenery Press, 2013) that thoughtfully deals with just this issue:

A counselor and nurse specializing in polyamorous singles, couples and groupings, Kathy Labriola has spent many years helping people to understand and manage their jealousy. This book is a compendium of the techniques and exercises she has developed, as well as tips and insights from the polyamory community’s top educators, therapists and authors. These accessible, simple techniques are designed to be easily implemented in the event of an intense jealousy crisis. They are even more useful if undertaken over a period of time before a jealousy crisis happens, to build a skill set that will be at hand to help managing jealousy when and if it does occur. (Available on Amazon)

Reviews of the book are overwhelmingly positive:

Based on her work with the clients she has seen, it is by necessity focused on people with the problems that come with jealousy. This is only a subset of folks in open relationships, some of whom do not have the kind of problems she deals with. However, if you or your partner(s) are experiencing jealousy, this book is full of good exercises to help you through your rough spots. There are nineteen sections, containing forty-two specific exercises with well laid out instructions and examples from people who are experiencing the kind of problems you might be experiencing. (www.ejhs.org)

This book knocked me out! An essential resource on how to resolve jealousy in polyamorous relationships, and open-minded others. An excellent tool for finding answers that can lead to peaceful hearts and an abundance of love and connection. (Anita Wagner Illig, PracticalPolyamory.com)

For anyone struggling with relationship jealousy or insecurity, and especially for people with multiple loves… will guide you through the labyrinth of jealousy and bring you safely out to your widest possible selection of lifestyle choices. (Dossie Easton, MFT, co-author, The Ethical Slut)

Given the tumult that jealousy can and will evoke if not honestly and compassionately dealt with, I think that this workbook is potentially an essential tool for anyone in open an relationship…relationships they wish to maintain as healthy, happy, and…MUTUALLY (for ALL parties) SATISFYING.

Love…sex…relationships…are never easy, and the more partners we include the more complex negotiating balance can become, but alternative relationships can also be very satisfying…it all depends (honestly) on how hard your willing to work, together.

xxx

dr.c.

‘Nymphomaniac’ posters put the ‘O’ in nympho — PHOTOS

Whether or not “NymphoManiac” turns out to be a good film or not…I HAD to post it HERE…hello…it’s right up OUR alley…xxx dr.c.

20 Fun, Weird, & Downright Wondrous SEX FACTS

These bizarre facts were collected on various sites across the internet, some sources were more reliable than others…but that isn’t the point is it…just read and smile then…

Go have some SEX, IT’S HUMP DAY DAMNIT!!!

xxx dr.c.

1. There are about 1,000 recognized euphemisms for ‘vagina’ in the English language.
2. The clitoris contains twice as many nerve fibers as the penis – a toe-curling 8,000.
3. Besides humans, bonobos (a type of chimp) and dolphins are the only animals that have sex for pleasure.
4. British spies stopped using semen as invisible ink because it began to smell if it wasn’t fresh.
5. A single sperm contains 37.5 MB of DNA information. One ejaculation represents a data transfer of 15,875 GB, equivalent to the combined capacity of 62 MacBook Pro laptops.
6. A female ferret will die if she doesn’t have sex for a year.
7. Seven Viagra tablets are sold every second.
8. The German for “contraceptive” is Schwangerschaftsverhütungsmittel. By the time you’ve finished saying it, it’s too late.
9. A single human male produces enough sperm in two weeks to impregnate every fertile woman on the planet.
10. 70% of men and women admit to having fantasized about someone else while having sex.
11. Gymnophoria is the sense that someone is mentally undressing you.
12. A female chimpanzee in a fit of passion has the strength of six men.
13. Sex burns off an average of about 100 calories per session.
14. Most men under 40 years of age can achieve an erection in less than 10 seconds.
15. Australians are the most receptive to the idea of having a threesome – 28% of them claim to have tried it.
16. Greek couples have sex an average of 138 times a year – placing them at the top of the world sex league. Japanese couples have sex just 45 times a year, which puts them in last place.
17. Women over 40 years of age are more likely to masturbate than any other group.
18. Sex can relieve a headache – it releases the tension, which restricts blood vessels in the brain.
19. It’s possible to relieve depression through masturbation.
20. At any given time, 25% of people are daydreaming about sex.

Keeping Sex Complicated

Incredibly thoughtful and nuanced…this is a MUST read for any woman wrestling with the reality of sex and sexuality in today’s media-slathered world! Brava!!!

Dating sucks everywhere, but it sucks harder in LA, and it sucks more now than ever.

A few months ago, before meeting someone for the very first time, as we were texting to confirm plans, he asked if I enjoyed giving blow jobs. When I didn’t want to answer, he called me a prude.

(I canceled the date.)

On another first date, a guy asked me when the last time was that I had had sex and how often I masturbated.

On a different date, a guy asked me if I could give him an ETA for when we’d have sex.

And yet another time, the guy ended the date early when I told him I wouldn’t be going home with him.

That there is a problem here is obvious. But what exactly the problem is – and where it stems from – is complicated. And I’m going to make…

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