The ‘Brave Ones’ Respond to ‘Prostate Massage and Male Multiple Orgasm’


After re-posting a blog singing the praises of prostate massage during sexual play…I put out a “call” for real-life experiences…and here’s what I got!

“It’s gotta be done right or it can be painful!”

“As long as the bros can get past butt hole hang ups, it’s a pretty spectacular event.”

“One day I hope to live in world where men will get rid of their butt hole hang ups! Lol.”

“It’s amazing. Only experienced once. Girls don’t know how to do it right. Ha ha ha.”

“I witnessed a man being fisted by his wife he seemed to enjoy it! She started with fingers, then different dildos from small to large, then fist almost to elbow. I myself have given a prostate massage while performing oral. He got very erect and ejaculated quickly! I have also strapped on with a man and he loved it! Lol. I guess its not for everyone but if done correctly can be very satisfying.”

“There is definitely a strong physiological response to having the prostate massaged.”

“The prostate is about the size of a walnut. Best results are one finger inside and moving forward in the same manner as you would stimulate a woman’s “g spot” and at the same time the thumb on the pyraneum placing pressure on the opposite side in a motion similar to rolling a walnut around between those same 2 fingers.”

“don’t know about a guy having multiple orgasms– If u mean one orgasm flowing into a second orgasm. But I have seen men have insane prostate orgasms. Not every guy likes it, but for some, a prostate orgasm is much more intense than a regular orgasm. Aneros toys are good for this. For extra intensity–place a vibrator at the end of the Aneros toy (when the Aneros is inside you). That’s my 2 cents.”

“It’s hot to perform or watch. The experience is unlike any other!There is also an incredible health benefit to prostate massage. In healthy men it wards off prostate issues and reduces symptoms in men who already have them. A fave product is the Aneros…it can be worn all day comfortably for heath benefits or used more aggressively during play. Worth trying for any man who can get over the ‘but I’m not gay’ hurdle.”

there are a plethora of toys, instructional videos and first-hand advice for those “braves” ones out there (wink)…Enjoy and Cheers and a very Happy New Year to all! Dr. NB.


Wet Wednesday…Yes, All Women Can Squirt, Gush…It’s a Biological Function.

I originally posted this blog some time ago…it was for a series I was covering on adult toys…however, recently a friend asked me about g-spot orgasms…and I thought I would revisit the post. I think we can all agree that the pathway to female orgasm is filled with myth and emotion, and yet it doesn’t have to be. Squirting or gushing, is a biological function when the g-spot area is stimulated; therefore, every woman CAN experience this type of orgasm…with a little patience and persistence. I have included some details along with my own experience below…enjoy, ladies…it IS hump-day after all ūüėČ xxx dr.c.

Welcome to: WET WEDNESDAYS!!!

For our first adventure, I present to you, the 10 Function Risque G Vibrator Waterproof 5.5 Inch Black (as shown below)

IMMEDIATE REVIEW: I JUST finished trying out this product, the¬†Risque G Vibrator, and I must admit…I am still shaking a bit!


I mean first and foremost I KNOW it’s a special G-spot vibe…but…ummmm…in terms of clitoral stimulation:¬†


Product Description:
3 popular styles now with 10 functions.Seamless, sleek, and super slim.
10 intense functions of vibration, pulsation, and escalation.
Whisper quiet.
State-of-the-art memory chip resumes last function used.ABS with PU Cote (wand)
ABS with Silver Plating (2 AAA batteries)
5.5″ x .75″/14 cm x 2 cm.

Product Review/Test Run:

Quite honestly I didn’t even get the chance to TRY the G-spot “hook” inserted until I recovered from the cyclic orgasms that the 10-speed vibrator¬†illicits! The vibration is VERY strong and the speeds vary in intensity and¬†rhythm, which combine in a titillatingly surprising manner! Not to mention, when you turn it off the memory chip recalls the “orgasm point” from your last use – I knew it was only a matter of time before technology invaded the world of adult toys! INGENIOUS!

As if all this wasn’t enough, the Thin-Mint (yes, I already named mine) is also a G-spot stimulator, and stimulate it does. Yes, I know what you’re saying, “What is all this G-spot business?” I recognize the G-spot isn’t at all that familiar to many and so I have integrated commentary from an additional source (Babeland, NYC) with my own experiences below for your enjoyment:


It’s not a myth, despite what you may have heard ‚ÄĒ the G-spot exists, and it loves attention! “G-spot” is the common name for a spot on the front of the vaginal wall through which you can stimulate the urethral sponge, an area of spongy tissue surrounding the urethra.¬†All female-bodied people have a G-spot, but not all respond to G-spot stimulation in the same way.

  1. Find it. The G-spot is about 2 inches inside of the vagina towards the belly, just behind the pubic bone. When women are aroused the tissue becomes thickened and can be felt through the vaginal wall. It creates an intense, distinctive sensation when stimulated. For some women, this feeling is similar to the sensation of needing to urinate; if it makes you feel more comfortable, pee before starting your explorations. And for some, stimulation of the G-spot can make them ejaculate.
  • I have found both of these experiences to be true: I feel like I “must pee,” I experience a female-ejaculation…AND the orgasms are without fail unique and extremely intense.

Turn yourself on. The first step is to get turned on. During arousal, the spongy tissue swells with fluid.

  • This was simple, using the vibe for clitoral stimulation paired with a little fantasy.

Add a finger or toy. Now, insert your finger into your vagina and curve your finger up towards your belly.

  • You will notice that the vibe is hooked, I simply used it to find my “spot”.

Firm strokes.¬†You’ll know when you hit the G-spot by the distinctive sensation it creates. Remember, you aren’t feeling for something on the surface of the vaginal wall; the urethral sponge is behind it, so you’ll need to press. The texture of the G-spot feels somewhat bumpy or crinkly; it’s noticeably different than the smooth walls of the vagina.¬†Press firmly and stroke your fingers towards your palm (move them in a “come hither” way).

  • Again this was accomplished with use of the toy…and it was evident that I had “hit” the G-spot when an increasingly intense feeling of sensation and pressure began.

Experiment.¬†There is no single “right” technique to find the the G-spot. Others really like to have their clitoris stimulated at the same time that their G-spot is stroked. A partner’s fingers stroking the G-spot during cunnilingus can feel simply divine.

  • Once I was really going, I added the bullet for clitoral stimulation.

Ejaculate (or not)!¬†Pressure on the G-Spot or the contractions of orgasm can cause female ejaculation¬†from the urethral sponge through the urethra. This fluid is different from urine and similar to men’s prostatic fluid. Empty your bladder before sex, so you won’t worry about peeing. Ejaculate quantity will probably be less than a teaspoon or two, but sometimes it can be copious. Objects in the vagina may block the urethra, thus preventing ejaculation. Some women ejaculate after the penis, dildo or fingers is removed. While not every woman ejaculates, female ejaculation is not uncommon, and it’s perfectly normal (and can feel great!).

  • Yes, I do this. I did this, just now, copiously! The first time I experienced this phenomenon it was with a partner and the source of a bit of embarrassment until I understood its source. My advice is, “go with it,” this is a natural reaction to intense pleasure and will be an orgasm like no other! We are so very lucky, us women, able to cum multiple times; our orgasms having such variant qualities.

Partners and sexual positions.¬†During partner sex there are some positions that are more conducive for hitting the G-Spot than others. Think geometry. Unless your partner has a curved dildo or penis, it’s the¬†cervix, not the G-spot, that will most likely be stimulated in the standard¬†missionary pose.¬†Doggy-style, or the receptive partner receiving a dildo or penis from behind, puts the G-spot in the bulls-eye a bit better. You can lift your upper body by supporting your hands against a wall or bed, or with the use of “sex furniture” like the¬†Love Bumper, and create a more angled approach to the vagina. Many women find that if they are on top, they can control penetration for better G-spot stimulation.

  • For me, if I am “folded in half” with a sizeable partner, I can easily achieve a G-spot orgasm. Though I will say that at first I had to learn to withstand the intense, almost uncomfortable, pressure that precedes the phenomenal pay-off!¬†I have tried various positions both with a male partner, and with the help of a strap-on with a female partner. The strap-on was a challenge, but I think utilizing this particular vibe would address the geometry issues that were encountered¬†(and I can’t wait to try that theory out).¬†

This brings my first installment of Wet Wednesdays to a close! Thank you to Katerina’s Closet, please feel free to share any of your adventures with sex toys…share and share alike, I always say!

xxx c.

Popular Stats on Orgasms: Men vs. Women

Popular Stats on Orgasms: Men vs. Women

As a statistician, I know statistics are wrong (at least) 40% of the time…however I few things struck me about this flyer I pulled off the internet…and that is THE SIMILARITY BETWEEN MEN’S AND WOMEN’S SEXUAL BEHAVIORS! Honestly, I am not shocked about the 25% differential in orgasm (although I would love to know the sample demographics because I imagine older women wouldn’t report the same, winks)…but the use of toys, masturbation, oral sex, sex to reach orgasm was interestingly similar between the genders (I am assuming this is irrespective of sexual orientation). One other stat caught my eye “25% of men and women feel under pressure to reach orgasm during sex”…really? Do you agree? Why? Curiosity is killing the doctor! dr.c.

What to Do When His Penis Is Too Big for You

Last week I posted this:



And so now…I am re-blogging the above! ūüėČ c.




So often we hear ‚Äúbigger is better,‚ÄĚ but what happens when bigger is too big? ¬†Don‚Äôt laugh. ¬†This is a serious problem. ¬†Although you may not be coming in contact with overzealous penises often, the truth of the matter is, they are out there, and many women and men struggle with how to handle them.

It can be a really sensitive subject for both parties, but not taking certain precautions can result in pain, self-consciousness and even injury.  That’s right, injury.  If you and your partner are not careful and he penetrates you too deeply, injury can occur to the cervix at the end of the vaginal canal.  So what should you do if his penis is too big for you?  Read on for some expert tips.


Arouse:  Foreplay is an absolute must when preparing to have sex with a well-endowed man.  By getting aroused, your vagina secretes…

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Do Women NEED to Cum?

Oh, women and our orgasms…perhaps, one of the most over-strived-for and under-appreciated experiences in our lives…males, female, self, other…WE WOMEN WANT TO CUM! But here is the real question:

Do we NEED to cum?

Yesterday I wrote a post about masturbation as an exercise in mindfulness, which really got me thinking about…well, about cumming. Later that day I came upon (you know it’s punny) a quote by the vivacious and voracious Mae West:

“An orgasm a day keeps the doctor away.”


I posted this quote on Facebook as I often post semi-provocative¬†sentiments to see what sparks people and in this case the ladies were indeed sparked (the exchange follows below). While there were the expected comments about how and when to cum, there was an interesting split between the psychological benefits of orgasm versus the physiological, which got me thinking…I don’t even have to look to know there is a plethora of¬†scientific¬†research our there providing evidence as to the mental and physical health benefits of orgasms, just like I don’t need to look in a stats book to know that statistics are incorrect 40% of the time. So, rather than bore you with numbers from studies that have a clear agendas, ¬†I thought I would speak from personal experience…(you all tend to¬†prefer¬†that anyway).


As I have previously discussed, for me¬†orgasms from masturbation represent a form of release that leads to an increased level of focus; they are simple to achieve and result in the release of tension, serotonin kicks-in and chills me out so that I may continue to write/work/think etc. The psychological benefit is clear. However the physiological benefit is less evident, granted I am sure that mechanisms of action are occurring beneath my level of consciousness (I am somehow increasing my lifespan by orgasming), but my immediate impression is often: I am a bit raw, and messy, and my muscles feel stiff…I honestly don’t feel that stellar, body-wise.

Whereas, if I orgasm from SEX…the experience seems to be reversed.

Typically, as we know, sex takes a bit more precursor than masturbation (not always, but at least a little forethought is needed)…and that requires some form of psychological application: feelings, thoughts, considerations…it’s not just you, after all. And all of these expectations can, and often do, create tension:

“Am I cumming? Are you cumming? are we cumming…together?”

However, if the psychological benefits of sex lag behind the immediate gratification of masturbation, then the physiological payoff is much…bigger! Unlike the sore messy state that masturbating so often leaves me in, sex has the benefit of simultaneously exhausting and relaxing every muscle in my body. Maybe it’s the flood of adrenalin or dopamine or whatever, acting as natural pain killers, but after sex I physically¬†feel NOTHING. Yes yes, so maybe I’m a little sore but by then I’ve passed-out asleep so it doesn’t really matter…and sleep…well I can just about¬†guarantee¬†I will not wake up until the morning, that is unless you wake me up.

Perhaps, sex is a case of physical satisfaction and benefit leading to the psychological: “I simply no longer care…about anything!”


And so here we are full circle,

Do women need to cum?

And my answer, as a learned clinician is:¬†Yes…often and in every way possible in order to ensure our psychological and physical health.

xxx Dr. Conchita.

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