“Sexuality is only attractive when it’s natural and spontaneous…” – Miss Monroe

“Fame has a special burden, which I might as well state here and now. I don’t mind being burdened with being glamorous and sexual. But what goes with it can be a burden. I feel that beauty and femininity are ageless and can’t be contrived, and glamour, although the manufacturers won’t like this, cannot be manufactured. Not real glamour; it’s based on femininity. I think that sexuality is only attractive when it’s natural and spontaneous. This is where a lot of them miss the boat. And then something I’d just like to spout off on. We are all born sexual creatures, thank God, but it’s a pity so many people despise and crush this natural gift. Art, real art, comes from it, everything.” (Marilyn Monroe)

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On the anniversary of her death…I never idealized Marilyn, but I also cannot deny that she was most certainly an original Nymphobrainiac, beautiful, sensual, and intelligent (with a reported IQ of 168)…she was mindful of the influence of her assets…perhaps too mindful.

Cheers to Great Women, xxx c.

Statistics…Are (little white) LIES!

“A woman is often measured by the things she cannot control. She is measured by the way her body curves or doesn’t curve, by where she is flat or straight or round. She is measured by 36-24-36 and inches and ages and numbers, by all the outside things that don’t ever add up to who she is on the inside. And so if a woman is to be measured, let her be measured by the things she can control, by who she is and who she is trying to become. Because as every woman knows, measurements are only statistics… and STATISTICS LI‎E.”

~ Marilyn Monroe.

As a woman who has based much of my professional career on the probability and proof of statistics, I am well aware of the many falsities therein.

FACT: 40% of ALL statistics are WRONG.

That’s a large margin, none of us would use a birth control method that failed that often…and yet we quote statistical evidence as proof of FACT.

I ascribe to a somewhat alternate view. Statistics do not represent truth rather they are observation, and observation can be subjective…opinion. But, does subjectivity make something inherently wrong? Perhaps, but the observation still holds meaning to the observer and ultimately the observer is the one who will create understanding. Now here is where it gets interesting…there can be a MULTITUDE OF UNDERSTANDINGS, each correct to someone…the trick of it all (there’s always a trick, isn’t there?) is to be able to simultaneously hold multiple understandings, perspectives, views, opinions…mindfully and without judgment…because it doesn’t matter that the statistics are incorrect…only that we have been open to a different reality, view, or opinion.

Sounds like a lot of work, when we could just lean on those statistics and KNOW what:

beauty (36-24-36),

or rich (the 1%),

or smart (IQ = 140+)

IS!

But…we cannot…because those statistics only offer ONE OPINION…and one opinion just doesn’t make life very challenging or interesting for that matter.

Which is exactly why my personal life offers such a perfect foil for my professional (“statistical”) one.

xxx c.

Girl-on-Girl: Talk of loss…over wine, and with LOVE

I had dinner and (too much) red wine with my girlfriend Jessica last night…and we talked about life. It was a melancholy conversation…discussing loss, desires, and dreams…but it felt good…it felt right…it felt like it was time to delve deeper, to explore the hopes and fears that I think we all tamp down in the beginning of relationships, afraid of being judged. And you know it’s right when afterward you do not feel judged…you feel absolved? No, that’s not quite right…you feel LOVED, unconditionally. Thank you Jessica…this quote below, from you female icon…is JUST FOR YOU! xxx c

“I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they’re right, you believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.”
Marilyn Monroe