“412. Women have no greater direct influence on their own personal world than when they refuse to provide unmarried sex. Yielding weakens their influence and determination and it enhances the guys’ dominating spirits. ”
There are ideals that men (and women) hold to…that seem so archaic and yet hold some semblance of truth…even if it is just a grain. Upon reading this snippet from a blog (entitled “What Women Never Hear”) discussing the “true nature of men and women” in relationships (written by a man), I was immediately pissy…
“WTF?!? I would not withhold sex and my own pleasure to simply ‘get a man,’ how victorian!”
Then I paused…this is my self-held belief…a relationship with another is to enhance my already established life, not to BE my life…Are there still women out there who talk about “getting a man”? Do women still leverage their life around “getting married”?
I believe that the answer must be more complicated that either I (or this blogger) make it. Today, women are faced with a special challenge, one that emphasizes financial/career independence, a full and indulgent social life, AND a “successful” relationship.
Here’s the rub, illustrated perfectly in the previous WWNH “axiom”: what we define as a “successful” relationship TODAY is diametrically opposed to the culturally accepted western values around sex/love/femininity that have been upheld and largely unchanged for centuries.
So, you ask…what is a woman to do? Well I am not sure I can fully answer that…accept to say that feeding in to/reinforcing those outdated “virtues” seems terribly unsatisfying…perhaps we need to focus less on “them” and “us” and more on “I and “we”…you know, shift the focus from the objective to the subjective?
Just a thought…happy Hump Day Loverz…xxx dr.c.
411. Using sex to capture a boyfriend is easy. Sex infatuates boys, but it does not bond men. Thus, unmarried sex paves the road to ex-girlfriend, -lover, -live in, or -wife. 
412. Women have no greater direct influence on their own personal world than when they refuse to provide unmarried sex. Yielding weakens their influence and determination and it enhances the guys’ dominating spirits. 
413. Women have two major windows in which they can by design change their man: A long courtship before they first have sex and years later in marriage after Nature softens his heart. Both periods, however, require patience, indirectness, and feminine charm. 
414. Women reject a long and chaste courtship. They prefer the joys of sex—or to have a boyfriend. They bypass the opportunity to make sure he’s Mr. Good Enough with potential for Mr. Right after a couple of decades of…
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