I am not sure why this fact brings me joy.
I am certainly not a “man-hater” and often take pleasure in their pleasure, but whereas I think most women feel competition with other women…I feel competition with men.
It’s not that I wish to BE a man, exactly; although, without a doubt there are privileges that come with being of the male-gender…ones that large portions of our society value.
But, I am no cry-baby.
I do not yearn for a penis.
(I can strap one on, if the situation calls.)
No…but I DO want to be:
BETTER THAN A MAN.
I know, I know…in declaring this I am simply promoting misandry, reinforcing misogyny and continuing the tradition of male-centered patrimony that places “winning” above all else.
But, it’s the truth.
I want to be better…than a man, in every way. And what’s more…I want them to acknowledge that I am better.
Sounds harsh, even as I write, but it is honest. This desire is one of the driving forces in my life, perhaps the fuel behind my constant need for achievement both professionally and personally. A shrink (haha, I am one) would say it may be the origin of my desire for women.
“But competition is bad,” you say, “t promotes separation and agression, rather than connection and harmony.”
I hear you and…I disagree.
I think that competition can bond us, work to bring “the other” up, while simultaneously increasing expectations.
You do better, I do better, WE do better.
Sounds like a rosy world doesn’t it? I know we may never coexist, men and women, as allies, per say, but…at least my orgasms are longer than yours.
xxx, conchita.
Dr. Nymphobrainiac 
I have to admit your posts often make me smile. As a male who has many female friends we often talk about things such as this. Competition is something I have always welcomed in a relationship, specially sexually.
Thank you for saying that BBJ…I wasn’t sure about this blog, it was something I felt, feel, but never in a negative way…I didn’t want to come off as a total man-hater…because to me the competitive aspect is something I enjoy most in my relationships with men! xxx
Once again I am pleased to have read your blog. A while back, I was having a conversation with this male friend about this orgasm I’d experienced that wouldn’t quit….earth shattering even. During the convo, the air changed and it did feel competitive and I thought it was odd that I came away feeling as if he was jealous that this is/was the norm for me and so, it was refreshing to read your thoughts. It reaffirms mine!
you know it’s funny I always wonder about the true origin of my competitive feelings with men in general…does it stem from thinking I am less-than? Do I see them as better on some level? I think the answer is not…maybe when i was younger…but as an adult it just feels healthy and very woman-affirming to say: Yeah, we women are just better in some ways 😛 lol
Indeed your orgasms may last longer, yet you’re forgetting one simple truth, that though a male’s orgasm is shorter he can also achieve multiple orgasms if he ever bother to learn how, and let me tell you they’re awesome 🙂 Food for thought
I’ve absolutely heard that…a kind of yoga technique…yes? I suppose I was referring to the majority of men who certainly do not have your talent! xxx
It’s ot a talent, it’s a matter knowing your body and training it to ft your needs and not you its..
you left me hanging! Its…???
I’m sorry bad spelling, lol. I meant “and training it to fit your needs, and not you (it)…”
damn i thought I was going to get some secret formula…that I could then sell to men everywhere…become rich and…well, nevermind now 🙂
lol
Charly, didn’t u ever want to be a man for a day? If the answer is yes, what would u do for those 24 hours?
What a magnificent question! Do you mind if I make this into a blog…it’s been so long since i’ve written and this is the perfect launching idea!!! Next post is just for you! xxx
Charly, sure & I’d love to hear your response, lol!