This past weekend I was watching a mini-marathon of “Taboo” (Nat’Geo’s crazy sexy series addressing human peculiarities), at the suggestion of my girlfriend (well she had the remote), and came across a sexual affiliation that I had no idea existed:
Objectum sexuality commonly referred to as OS, is a pronounced emotional desire towards particular inanimate objects. Those individuals with this expressed preference may feel strong feelings of arousal, attraction, love, and commitment to certain items or structures of their fixation. For some, sexual or even close emotional relationships with humans are incomprehensible. The term objectum-sexuality (Ger. objektsexualität) was coined in the 1970s by Eija-Riitta Eklöf Berliner-Mauer, a woman from Liden, Sweden who was “married” to the Berlin Wall. Objectum- sexual individuals also often believe in animism, or the belief that objects have souls, intelligence, feelings, and are able to communicate.
At first glance it seems a bit too far fetched, a hybrid of our overstimulated and over-eroticized society, but closer consideration made me rethink my rash judgment.
Taken from the perspective of someone who has perhaps had difficulty with “real-human” relationships, someone who has been abused or suffers from an inability to integrate/react/respond to another’s emotion, this “object-love” begins to make sense.
An object can be imbued with any emotion/feeling/projection we desire…and can never…make us feel uncomfortable, angry, fearful, or hurt. This is a sexual-interaction within complete control of its creator.
Granted the object also cannot, on its own, make us feel joy or sexual pleasure
either….BUT imbued with the right “anima” an object-love might just create a window for a depth of human emotion
that one might never experience on their own.
Perhaps if objectum sexuality is better understood as a surrogate for interpersonal sexuality…a gateway to mutual expression…then, it doesn’t seem quite so silly…odd…weird…it just seems like another space in what I have come to know as the multi-dimensional process of coming to understand your/my/our very personal and unique state-of sexuality.
And to be quite forward, objectum sexuality appears more adaptive than many other so-called fetishes, which only reinforces the notion that there is no ONE sexual identity
that we must
claim throughout our lifetime, rather our sexuality is a process…to be explored…and…accepted, for what it is: TO YOU!
Viva la SEXUAL IDENTITY…Viva la Gays
, Straights…and EVERYTHING in between…AND BEYOND!!!