Sex Is Fun - Five Questions

Reblogged from storyofalice:

Aaaaand... back to our regular programming. Have you ever wanted to listen to a bunch of friends carrying an informed, light-hearted conversation about everything sexual? Then I recommend listening to the Sex is Fun podcast. While you're at it, you might want to give a listen to their archives right here.

A couple of months ago, the Sex is Fun team came up with a series of questions…

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1. Who are you as a sexual person? This description might include labels regarding orientation, gender, or preferred behaviours, or it may not. As a sexual person, generally I would describe myself as passionate and loving, which may be surprising. I never defined myself as bisexual until recently when it seemed like the politically correct thing to do, but have ALWAYS been attracted to both genders equally. Overall, I would say I understand myseld as someone with a playful attitude about sex and very few hangups concerning myself and/or others...AND it took me a LONG time to get to "this place". 2. What was one of the first things you thought was sexy or an early moment you were aware of feeling sexy? I always thought reading was sexy, meaning I found sexual pleasure through reading probably as soon as I could read (8 or 9?) I was consuming all of my mother's romance novels; tucked away into a corner of her library! As for what I first though was sexy? Clothing...the drape of a neckline, the turn of an ankle in a high heel, the way a man's shirt collar forms to his neck...odd, but at the age of 9 or so my exposure to sexy things was limited! 3. What is a sexual fantasy or experience you have yet to fulfill? Great question. In the moment (this will change i am sure), I would love to experience full submission to a lover. I am told at times I am too much in control, which I accept, I would like to surrender...it doesn't need to be in a BDSM scenario although that would be a plus! 4. How open are you about your sex life and/or your sexual identities? Extremely open, some would say too much so, but I made the conscious decision to be open, to share so that others may feel like marginalized by their own desires...which is why I have my blog, throw sexually-themed events, etc. 5. What question would help us best understand what is important to you about your sexuality? What makes you feel wanted, sexually? Shall I answer it as well...? **THE 5 QUESTIONS ARE ADDED IN THE COMMENT SECTION IF YOU WOULD LIKE TO ANSWER THEM**

Is my affinity for my vibrator akin to OBJECTUM-SEXUALITY?

This past weekend I was watching a mini-marathon of “Taboo” (Nat’Geo’s crazy sexy series addressing human peculiarities), at the suggestion  of my girlfriend (well she had the remote), and came across a sexual affiliation that I had no idea existed:

Objectum sexuality commonly referred to as OS, is a pronounced emotional desire towards particular inanimate objects. Those individuals with this expressed preference may feel strong feelings of arousal, attraction, love, and commitment to certain items or structures of their fixation. For some, sexual or even close emotional relationships with humans are incomprehensible. The term objectum-sexuality (Ger. objektsexualität) was coined in the 1970s by Eija-Riitta Eklöf Berliner-Mauer, a woman from Liden, Sweden who was “married” to the Berlin Wall. Objectum- sexual individuals also often believe in animism, or the belief that objects have souls, intelligence, feelings, and are able to communicate.

~ Wikipedia article on Objectum Sexuality (26/10/09)

At first glance it seems a bit too far fetched, a hybrid of our overstimulated and over-eroticized society, but closer consideration made me rethink my rash judgment.

Taken from the perspective of someone who has perhaps had difficulty with “real-human” relationships, someone who has been abused or suffers from an inability to integrate/react/respond to another’s emotion, this “object-love” begins to make sense.

An object can be imbued with any emotion/feeling/projection we desire…and can never…make us feel uncomfortable, angry, fearful, or hurt. This is a sexual-interaction within complete control of its creator.

Granted the object also cannot, on its own, make us feel joy or sexual pleasure either….BUT imbued with the right “anima” an object-love might just create a window for a depth of human emotion that one might never experience on their own.

Perhaps if objectum sexuality is better understood as a surrogate for interpersonal sexuality…a gateway to mutual expression…then, it doesn’t seem quite so silly…odd…weird…it just seems like another space in what I have come to know as the multi-dimensional process of coming to understand your/my/our very personal and unique state-of sexuality.

And to be quite forward, objectum sexuality appears more adaptive than many other so-called fetishes, which only reinforces the notion that there is no ONE sexual identity that we must claim throughout our lifetime, rather our sexuality is a process…to be explored…and…accepted, for what it is: TO YOU!

Viva la SEXUAL IDENTITY…Viva la Gays, Straights…and EVERYTHING in between…AND BEYOND!!!

 …xxx c.