“Be a bad bitch, never be a stupid bitch.” – M. Minaj
Meditating on all my bad bitches today…you are hard and beautiful women for certain!
You have unflagging confidence.
Are up to challenge anyone and everyone.
And ALWAYS carry you sexuality,
like it belongs to NO ONE except YOU…
because it doesn’t.
Cheers to my BAD BITCHES!
xxx conchita.
I am not sure why this fact brings me joy.
I am certainly not a “man-hater” and often take pleasure in their pleasure, but whereas I think most women feel competition with other women…I feel competition with men.
It’s not that I wish to BE a man, exactly; although, without a doubt there are privileges that come with being of the male-gender…ones that large portions of our society value.
But, I am no cry-baby.
I do not yearn for a penis.
(I can strap one on, if the situation calls.)
No…but I DO want to be:
BETTER THAN A MAN.
I know, I know…in declaring this I am simply promoting misandry, reinforcing misogyny and continuing the tradition of male-centered patrimony that places “winning” above all else.
But, it’s the truth.
I want to be better…than a man, in every way. And what’s more…I want them to acknowledge that I am better.
Sounds harsh, even as I write, but it is honest. This desire is one of the driving forces in my life, perhaps the fuel behind my constant need for achievement both professionally and personally. A shrink (haha, I am one) would say it may be the origin of my desire for women.
“But competition is bad,” you say, “t promotes separation and agression, rather than connection and harmony.”
I hear you and…I disagree.
I think that competition can bond us, work to bring “the other” up, while simultaneously increasing expectations.
You do better, I do better, WE do better.
Sounds like a rosy world doesn’t it? I know we may never coexist, men and women, as allies, per say, but…at least my orgasms are longer than yours.
xxx, conchita.
(Physical) Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
(Physical) Beauty is determined by society.
(Physical) Beauty is a myth.
Do you believe the above statements?
Are you able to completely free yourself from this all too powerful societal construction? Do you even fully wish to be entirely free?
These are complicated questions with even more intimate, individual, and multifaceted answers.
I do not venture to guess, divine, or even analyse yours…rather I challenge you to explore your own psyche…to become curious as to the origins of the why’s and how’s of your notions of beauty.
WHY?
Well primarily because I believe that any external force that exacts influence on our self concept is worth…knowing. We owe it to ourselves.
Because…we are beautiful.
xxx c.
The Headline Reads, “The truth hurts rape liar” (justice_happened_things_system_solomon_JyyLFVitMM4bx63gpD1ouI)
In short, and to do the story a terrible injustice, this current event is centered around a man who was falsely convicted of rape and only freed after his accuser was challenged by a lack of DNA evidence and after 4 years in prison.
Heinous, is your initial reaction as was mine…and it only gets worse. She was drawn into making this claim after leaving a party drunk, accepting a ride from this man (with a legal history no less), and getting “shit” from her girlfriends the next day for “leaving the party early”.
No doubt this is a Nasty-Dish to be served…and then to actually serve-it (for 4 years no less!) is, well nauseating! And we can all wax-on about how awful this is, “the poor fellow”…we can sit around the water cooler, send the IM…You get the idea…what I am getting at here though is a slightly more provocative take.
Now listen…I am not trying to win any popularity contests here…I am just stating a…contrary opinion, based on…brace yourself and do NOT cringe…well you can, but then keep reading…FEMINIST THEORY.
I know. I KNOW. You have heard it all before…women are treated with inequity when compared to men in social, economic, and political rhelms…but when we look at this situation through this particualr lens the “blame” becomes less clearcut and more reflective of a fault in our society, essentially not simply about this cruel individual-woman.
Here is what we know about Rape. Less than 50% (est.) of all rapes are reported. 30% of people “blame the victim” in some capacity when it comes to situations involving rape. So what we have is a society that continues to repress the reality of rape and perpetuate views that are archaic and arguably dangerous to its victims.
Taken to the extreme…I would contend that in cases of rape there are many more perpetrators that “get away with it” than are wrongly accused, as in this case…and yet I can only think that the reason we don’t see articles in the NY Post titled: “Teens-girls report less than half of all rapes committed,” is that as a society we find it much more appealing to reinforce the idea that rape is unjustified than to really support the fact that somewhere between 25-33% of all women will experience sexual abuse/assault in their lifetime. Afterall, much of our life (or so the media would have us believe) is about placating and/or manipulating our fears while simultaneously championing our fantasies.
In the end…we maybe left with the notion that everyone…man or woman is an individual and can only be evaluated from that standpoint…but then, that wouldn’t be fair either as we are all a part of the social-web from which our gender is unwittingly woven…
And so, perhaps our unwitting victim was indeed the man and the perpetrator the woman, in this case…or maybe the woman was also a victim of a society that searches for “evil”…or to take it one more step, perhaps the media violates all of us when they chose a particular “fantastic” and anomulous story over then general reality…any way you look at it it seems we are all slaves to Our Own Particular Social Construction…meaning one woman’s fantasy is another woman’s reality and that society in the end will decide who is GUILTY and who is INNOCENT.
Currently, on my Kindle I am enjoying a historical piece by Allison Weir, The Lady in The Tower: The Fall of Anne Boleyn…It cronicles Anne Boleyn’s rise to Queendom and her consequent fall to beheadedness as Henry VIII’s 2nd of 6 wives (yes even back in THE DAY!), after being found guilty of adultery & treason, namely plotting to kill the king. In truth it is a bit lengthy and full of old English but I cannot seem to stop laboring through it! A fact which has given me pause for reflection…and lead to me to the recognition that what is fascinating me the most about this true story is how the age-old Madonna-Whore myth is re-enacted yet again to bring down a powerful and thus frightening woman. It’s not a new theme in fact it has played out in most of our lives (as women)…in one way or another…So stay with me for a moment…
For all accounts and purposes we can factually assume Anne’s innocence, at least on the count of treason to plot her husband’s murder…but let’s begin at the beginning…King Henry VIII left his first wife Kaherine of Aragon after being “bewitched” by the Lady Anne and then pining after her for years before the Church would grant an annulment to this first marriage. Their “secret” marriage was one not acknowledged by all The Kingdom due to differing (actually warring) poltical and religious factions (if there was a difference between the two at that time).
The Lady Anne, Queen Anne…was not well liked in Court. She was outspoken in her marriage, jealous when Henry took consorts, and enjoyed gambling and flirtations with her ladies-in-waiting. Reportedly she was “schooled” in France and was reputed to have a cortesan-like education. She was also strong in her religeous convictions and politically Anne was extrememly influential as to which way her husband’s alliance swayed. In short she was a Rebel, a calculating rebel and she was quickly marked a danger to those in Court who’s veiws didn’t align with her own. Her one “weakness” was an anability to bare male children with the king (a “problem” which history bears out if you recall who her daughter was).
So, we have a strong, influential, sexually assured woman…Queen. And a court that is clearly flumoxed at best and enraged at worst over her conduct and ability to weild power over them. Enter the plotting, power-hungry male advisor….and voila! We have a scandal to produce!
Very quickly, and I am sure you can fill in the story…The Queen is brought to trial, witnesses are bribed, evidence is fabricated, the King’s widely recognized paranoia is played upon…and we have all the makings of a tragedy…or a soap opera, novella if your prefer…we will call it: “The Lady is a Tramp” or maybe “Black Widow” or perhaps “Off With Her Head! ”…whatever we decide the ending is inevitable…and our tale ends with a necessary victim and a society that is once again soothed by the “justice” of reining-in and finally extinguishing a woman’s power by means of her sexual…proprieties? confidence? expression? No these are far to strong a word how about just…
It was Anne Boleyn’s Sexuality that Screwed her in the End…but at least the King(dom) Got Good HEAD!
Terribly punny I know…but sadly true…in today’s world womens expressed sexuality and affinity for power continue to engender hate (really fear) in others less concious of their own nature…but we must also remember that our dear Queen Anne got the last laugh as her Daughter Elizabeth I was to be the first powerful woman to ascend the crown of England…how interesting that she did so as a VIRGIN!!!..or so she would have us believe, I wonder…
