Archive | August 2012

Mexico Welcomes the International Film Festival of Female Directors of Erotic Cinema with Work by Candida Royalle & Others

Candida Royalle, famed producer and director of couples-oriented pornography and founder of Femme Productions (a film company focused on the goal of making erotica based on female desire), will be heading down to Mexico City this month to take part in the first International Film Festival of Female Directors of Erotic Cinema to be held in Latin America.

Incidentally, Ms. Royalle produced and directed Under the Covers,

one of my first and only forays into pornography (as yet) and I can say from experience that this true renaissance woman of the erotic will be sure to add come mindful hedonism to the mix with her film submission, “Eyes of Desire”.

“Cinema and Sex, the Feminine Glance” is taking place August 20th through 26th, at the Cultural Center Tlatelolco of the National Autonomous University of Mexico (UNAM) and the Lido Cinema, operated by National Film Archives and the Ministry of Culture.

Candida will discuss her work and introduce her feature, “Eyes of Desire”, at screenings through out the week. Other women-directors to be featured are Tristan Taormino, Jennifer Lyon Bell and Liandra Dahl.
According to the organizers of the event, “the festival’s objective is to serve as a platform for the exhibition of the most representative films, while establishing a place for dialogue, debate, and reflection from different female visions of pornography, sex, and pleasure.In addition, three interdisciplinary panels will discuss “Pornography and Freedom of Speech,” “Appropriation of the means of representation” and “Sex, fictitious or sexual education”.
I must say I am quite happy to see that an all female representation of erotica/pornography in latin america, a region historically dominated by male gender-sex stereotypes (machismo) and look forward to reading more about what comes out of the conference.
It’s always satisfying to watch the work of someone who has been an inspiration as they continue to branch-out and expand their aspirations and reach new goals…their successes sparking the same determination and dedication in you…Thank you Candida, and congratulations on yet another success…for women and SEX!
xxx, c.
(Images are stills from, “Under the Covers”.)

For my Friend…on his Birthday.

Gio and I have ben friends more than 20 years now, since we were in our teens. It’s rare that a friendship is both so intimate and so enduring, and I cherish “us” for those qualities and so many more. I could go on and on about the characteristics that qualify great friendship…but I think you know…it’s been said before and anything I might say would only be a reflection of your own experience i am sure. So instead I will offer some words from one of our favorite poets, Pablo Neruda…who we would read aloud to each other late into the night in that tiny colorful apartment on, “5th and B”…Funny how romantic love and sustained friendship (love) share so much in common.

“I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where. I love you simply, without problems or pride: I love you in this way because I do not know any other way of loving but this, in which there is no I or you, so intimate that your hand upon my chest is my hand, so intimate that when I fall asleep your eyes close.”  - 100 Love Sonnets

I love you Gio, today, tomorrow and always, your conchita.

Mindful Hedonism: Is it Possible?

I came to my spiritual and sexual awakenings at roughly the same time in my life, late 20′/early 30′s, and no matter how hard I tried to relate one to the other these pathways always seemed to represent a distinct dialectic:

My mindful spirituality (Buddhism) focused on the virtues of releasing physical and psychological desire, 

while my erotic explorations embraced desire as if it were scripture.

These two highly influential belief systems, driving forces really, seemed incompatible…mutually exclusive…at odds with one another:

How can I be mindful and hedonistic?

And yet, therein lies the answer.

My evolution to mindful hedonism, came with time and much mindless behavior. It seems that one has to be completely open in order to later become focused and aware when it comes to desire. At any rate, the years following my obtuse view of sexual exploration (or impulsive hedonism) have been extremely rewarding…physically and emotionally.

My version mindful hedonism may not be what you would embrace as mainstream sexual practice, but I think that’s a bit too much to ask concerning anyone who values the erotic as much as I (or you) do; still, it is responsible…to my lovers…to me. It feels right.

The following passage inspired this reflection, and perhaps will spark some similar acceptance in presently disparate aspects of you as well…my hedonistic friend:

“French philosopher Michel Onfray said it best, ‘Hedonism is an introspective attitude to life based on taking pleasure yourself and pleasuring others, without [consciously] harming yourself or anyone else.’ This outlook seeks to utilize the full capacity of mind, body and heart in order to attain the highest experiences of sustainable ecstasy.

As long as we hold onto self-destructive belief patterns, actions that no longer serve us can be perpetuated in the name of avoiding the greater pain of confronting a painful memory or belief. On the other end of the spectrum, an individual may consciously take part in an activity that outwardly seems needlessly painful or “dark.” In reality, this unpleasant experience may free an individual from a parasitic belief pattern.

Sometimes the only way past it, is through it. This is where a conscious understanding of disciplined hedonism shines. Through experience, we learn that through embracing our whole being, highs and lows, we are capable of greater enjoyment and fulfillment. A symbolic closet-cleaning allows us to witness our experience of pleasure with newly liberated eyes.” (From Hedonism: The Pursuit of Happiness, by Sascha Kyssa on elephant journal.com)

The bit above about how not expressing these desires is in fact more harmful than helpful, while doing so can be ultimately healing…resonates with me. I have come to the belief that leaving aspects of ourselves unexplored (those darker less tolerable desires, for instance) only works against our ability to experience pleasure, and ultimately self-acceptance and love, and instead fosters shame and self-loathing.

So…explore, indulge, enjoy…all of your hedonistic tendencies, mindfully…and you may find that being bad, never felt so good!

xxx conchita.

(images by Shutterbugboudoir.com)

The Vanilla Party 'Smooth and Creamy" Pics, NYC

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DMA Events NYC's Vanilla Party last month was such an intriguing mix of guests…the images capture the feel perfectly…I look forward to the next experience! Enjoy the tease...and yes, I am the blond with the crop-cut...xxx conchita.

With MakeLoveNotPorn.tv, the Irrepressible Cindy Gallop Aims to Give Porn a Reality Check

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“Porn is homogenizing sex,” Cindy Gallop proclaimed on a recent rainy Wednesday, her blond bob swinging with emphasis. The result, according to Ms. Gallop: A generation of young men, all too many of whom think the most natural landing place for their ejaculate is a woman’s face, and a generation of young women, all too many of whom think they're required not just to participate, but wholly enjoy such an act.

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“Real world sex is more creative, more innovative, more surprising, more amazing, more arousing and more hot than porn will ever be.” - Cindy Gallop.

All the World’s a Stage, You Just Have to…OPEN UP!

This bed is your stage,” Rochester had said. “From such a stage you could do anything.”

“Do you not understand? what power there is in that mouth, these sumptuous tits, that tight cunny of yours?”

“Power to do what?”

“Almost anything. now you can give a man a quick ride that leaves him happy or a night of play that tires him. but there is more to learn. you can give a man pleasure, not just in his body but in his mind, his soul, that you become a drug. So that he will crave you. So that his bullocks will ache and give him no peace until his prick is once more the master of that smooth warmth. And I can train you, pretty pet. Do you want that?”

“Yes my lord.”

“Good. On your knees. No, off the bed. for this is your god, and you must worship it.”

(She is instructed in fellatio.)

“Do you love my cock?”

Nell found that she did.

“Do you worship it, my arbor vitae, my tree of life?”

Yes, that, too.

“And do you wish for holy communion?”

…Nell did wish for it.

“Then you shall have it.” Rochester came deep in her throat…

-From, “The Darling Strumpet: A Novel of Nell Gwynn, Who Captured the Heart of England and King Charles II” by Gillian Bagwell (set in 17th Century London).

There is an indescribable quality to the experience of The Lover who turned-you-out, who taught you the value of control through worship and the immeasurable pleasure derived from pushing your erotic prowess to unimaginable limits.

It is…

The lover who invites you to perform…for him, for her, for them.

The lover who shows you how to be open…completely.

When I refer to OPENNESS, I am not (simply) referring to pleasure, I also mean the deeper, dirty, nastier emotions:

humiliation

fear

anger

jealousy

gluttony

and then…from those depths…it is the lover who lifts you up…who raises you to ecstasy, previously unimaginable.

I believe that it is only through that level of honesty that we derive true satisfaction…of an unbound nature, freedom.

Not an easy experience.

Not a pretty one

(true experiences rarely are).

Yet, it is THE ONE you need to become The Star…Not in someone else’s performance though.

The lover only sets the stage, the show is all yours.

Now, are you ready for your close-up?

Indeed, I think you are.

xxx c.

(image by Shutterbugboudoir.com for Pastease.com )

Wet Wednesday: Get Your Sex-ercise On!

As you may have gleaned, fitness and health are an important part to my life….everyday…so it should also seem a natural correlation to SEX!

It IS Wet Wednesday after all.

And on this fine day I have some rather intimate workouts for you…

Ladies first; I present an upgrade from the classic Ben Wa ball: the Geisha Ball (love the name) and it VIBRATES!

Simply insert it in your vagina; the movements you make while walking give you a continual massage. It also keeps the pelvic muscles in shape, allowing you more pleasure during sex.

Shots Toys Geisha Super Ball Erotic Exercise Ball Waterproof Purple

($13.99 at Katerina’s Closet, you save 11% off retail)

I wonder how it would feel if you did jumping jacks after insertion…hmmmnn.

But I digress…For the men I have the penis barbell. Okay it’s a bit of a gag-toy, but something I would LOVE to see (in use) nonetheless!

Original Pecker Exerciser

($6.79 at Katerina’s Closet, 7% off retail)

As the manufacturer points out:

“You exercise every part of your body with weights, why should your pecker be any different? It is after all a muscle as well. Keep your pecker in shape with the Original Pecker Exerciser and see how strong and muscular your pecker gets! You’ll be able to lift your partner with just your pecker alone!”

Ummmm…what a selling point and who wouldn’t want to see THAT!?!?

So, along with a hearty chuckle, I hope you’ve enjoyed these offerings for Wet Wednesday, a special thank you to Katerina’s Closet for keeping me entertained (wink, wink), and…trust that you all know the BEST EXERCISE IS…SEX-ERCISE!!!

xxx c.

(image by BPS Productions for ForTradvd.com)

A Wet Wednesday…PRE-WARNING: NYC Vibe-Giveaway!

In the interest of giving you nymphobrainiacs a heads-up…tomorrow Trojan is giving away 10,000 vibes across the city!

I can’t vouch for its functionality…I have yet to try these “over-the-counter” vibes I’ve spied as I wait to pick up my birth control script…but with a well known name and a $35 price tag, this lil-thang must get the job done at the very least!

As per Trojan on Facebook, we will have to check back to tomorrow when the secret locals will be revealed…I don’t know about you, but I will definitely be there…

“Free Orgasms! FREE ORGASMS FOR SALE!!!”

I’ll save you a spot on line…xxx c.

The Erotic Art of Schiele: “I Believe in the Immortality of all Creatures”

“I do not deny that I have made drawings and watercolors of an erotic nature. But they are always works of art. Are there no artists who have done erotic pictures?” - Egon Schiele

In what has turned into an ongoing blog-series celebrating artists who embody a nymphobrainiac ideal (the merging of intellectual and erotic mindfulness) I am returning to Egon Schiele. An Austrian painter whose body of work was completed in the early 20th century, yet still continues to repel and enthrall today.

His work has that dialectic quality. It is not “pretty” to the eye; the lines are jilted and simplistic, the colors splotchy and garish,

and…real.

When Schiele painted the human form he actually captured aspects of the human condition:

Nude. Awkward. Sexual. Emotional. Twisted.

His figures looked like people who had lived…a difficult life…a quality captured in the very lines that “confined” their twisted shapes.

There is something almost intrusive about his painting…as if you just walked in on someone masturbating…they feel personal, intimate; as if they are still possessed by the subjects, and we are intruding on their moment.

All of these characteristics make Schiele’s work timeless and addictive. I have never looked at one Schiele image, only many.

Schiele’s personal life mirrored the non-conformity depicted in his art. He often shacked-up with underage delinquents in a kind of commune-style living arrangement and was eventually arrested for seducing a girl under the age of consent; however, after appearing before a judge, he was found innocent.

Schiele’s relationship with his mother was strained:

“My mother is a very strange woman… She doesn’t understand me in the least and doesn’t love me much either. If she had either love or understanding she would be prepared to make sacrifices.” 

With this in mind, Schiele’s salacious depictions of women appear to reflect an unconscious and twisted (really maladaptive) wish for intimacy…love.

His self-portraits almost always portrayed a nude, contorted, pained Schiele…

Theories abound about Schiele’s “overly-close” relationship with his sister (Gerti) implying incest, which was unsubstantiated…however, this interpretation remains a powerful intuition as to the inspiration behind Schiele’s sometimes disturbing work.

At one point, Schiele studied under Klimt, which may be obvious from the style adopted in his painting from that time. And while am a lover of Klimt’s work…I prefer Schiele, when he was doing Schiele…dirty, nasty, raw…HUMAN.

I think Schiele, himself, understood his work best (not a quality common in all artists) when he commented:

“Art cannot be modern. Art is primordially eternal.”

This, I think, gets to the heart of the matter…

Schiele’s work sheds the pretty dressing of society and culture and shows us…who we would be…primal, raw, base. 

Have a great weekend nymphobrainiacs! xxx c.