There has been so much written on FAILURE…so many great thinkers, philosophers, psychologists, businessmen, artists have chimed-in on the subject of what has come to be defined as: the state or condition of not meeting intended objectives or goals (Wikipedia). Basically everyone from every walk of life who has put themselves “out there” in some measure has experienced failure…and more often then not those that claim the greatest success have also had to own the most disappointment.
I KNOW THIS.
And yet…it’s hard, damnit!
It is hard to loosen one’s grip on hard earned desires…to actually welcome failure…with grace, even!
I suppose, currently I am at what one might term, a crux in life…and with that intermediary position…I find myself accepting much more failure than success.
It is NOT fun.
It is necessary.
And so…I sit…getting past my most recent let-down…allowing it to roll-off-my-back and into my garbage can of:
Not enough experience
Too much experience
Not the right experience
I am fondly referring to this place of refuse as my personal ass-crack of missed opportunities…catchy descriptive I think.
And yet, it is not as if I am without success and love…not the ambition and the knowledge to back it up.
So I sit…finding myself in-between, once again…as a consequence of both personal-life choices and simple right-time/right-place continuity…and I listen…I listen to the words of others that know…like this advice from a close and successful business associate and good friend:
There is nothing that can stop me from doing what I want, I really feel like that. And I try to instill that confidence, motivation, and relentlessness in the people around me by never accepting the status quo, or from being satisfied with “now.” Forget about here…we need to be “there”. I literally have gone through tons of disappointments, failures, personal and professional losses, it is the reason why I won’t fail. I’m a great salesman and negotiator (now) because I never let the last lost sale affect the potential next new win.
I know that acknowledging momentary failure is not the same as accepting complete failure…and I can smile, take out the trash (so to speak)…and begin again.
Enjoy your weekend,
xxx c.
