Do Friends Fuck Friends?

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This was shared on a Facebook status:

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I have got to air this out cause it’s just eating me alive. Friends don’t kiss friends, friends don’t fuck friends, friends don’t get jealous when their friend is talking to somebody else unless the situation is different, friends don’t cuddle with each other, friends don’t call each other babe or baby. Basically if you’re treating your friend as if he or she is something more than that then guess what then that’s what you really want stop over using the word friend cause friends you are not. That’s just misusing the word & that’s how shit gets fucked up. Smh I had to man! 

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This is a meaningful and interesting point…well articulated even…as someone who has chosen to be a part of a lifestyle where these lines are slightly blurred (e.g., friends DO sometimes kiss friends, etc.)…this brings up the all important point of establishing well-defined boundaries in ALL of your relationships (e.g., this has to be “ok” with ALL of us involved)…I wonder if others have had similar experiences…?

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Curious as to your take readers…xxx dr.c.

Bisexuality Explained

Charly CONCHITA Carlyle:

It seems so simple from this perspective…because it is.

Originally posted on Feisty Feminism:

As a bisexual woman, I hear a lot of “you’re just confused”, “you’re being greedy”, or my personal favorite “make up your mind”.  So I have been thinking of a way to explain it that everybody can understand.  Here is what I have come up with.

Say you are eating a piece of chocolate cake.  And this is the most delicious damn chocolate cake you have ever had.  Like you really really love that cake.

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But you know, you have had pie in the past.  You really enjoyed that pie too.  Sometimes, because you’re human, even though you really are content with your cake, you look at pie and think “Damn, that pie looks pretty good”.

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And because you don’t like to limit yourself on what type of dessert to have, sometimes you look at ice cream and think that looks pretty good too.

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Now, does all of this mean…

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Sex Makes You Healthier (as if you needed another excuse)

(Via Second to None Nutrition on Facebook)

***Having sex is good to your ‪#‎muscles‬***

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10 health benefits of sex you need to know

1 . Having sex relieves headaches. Every time you make love , it releases the tension in the veins of the brain.

2 . A lot of sex can clear the stuffy nose. Sex is a natural antihistamine . It helps to fight against asthma and spring allergies .

3 . Making love is a spectacular beauty treatment. Scientists have discovered that when a woman has sex , it produces a large amount of estrogen that gives shine and softness to hair.

4 . Sex is one of the safest sports. Make love often strengthens the muscles of male and female body. It’s more enjoyable than swimming 20 laps in the pool and there is not need special shoes!

5 . Make love slowly , smoothly and in a relaxed way reduces the chances of suffering dermatitis, skin rashes and acne . The sweat produced cleanses the pores and makes your skin glow .

6 . Lovemaking can burn all the ‪#‎calories‬ you have accumulated during the romantic dinner before bedtime.

7 . Sex is a divine remedy for depression. It releases endorphins into the bloodstream , creating a state of euphoria and leaving women and men with the feeling of being unique.

8 . Sex is the tranquilizer and muscle relaxant to a safer world . It is a thousand times more effective than Valium .

9 . Sexually active body releases more pheromones. .

10 . Kissing each day will keep you more time away from the dentist . Kissing is an art which makes the cleaner teeth and saliva reduces the amount of acid that causes tooth decay . This prevention eliminates many problems , in addition to offering a breath constantly renewed!

Thought it was worth a Friday #reblog

Enjoy the weekend, xxx dr.c.

What is a “Real” Woman? – A Ballerina Who Transcends Type

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I posted a photo of a model-ballerina yesterday, on my Facebook page, by the name of Aline Riscado (model/dancer/bodybuilder).

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She is quite muscular and curvy, which takes nothing away from her talent as an athlete and artist or her obvious beauty as a latin woman.

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What struck me was her non-ballerina-like body, proving that pre-determined definitions off “type” can be transcended. What disturbed me were comments like, “Well her ass is fake!”…Does it REALLY matter?

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We are clearly not talking about extreme or disfiguring surgical changes here to the point of inhuman proportion…and…Yes, I understand the complexities of plastic surgery from a feminist perspective; yes, I get that in many ways it perpetuates objectification…HOWEVER, I also understand that it is a personal decision and SHAMING a woman for individual choices made about her own body is detrimental as it only reinforces objectification of self.

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It would be nice to accept a woman, as she presents herself with or without “fake parts”…because believe you me…SHE IS ALL *REAL* WOMAN…NO MATTER WHAT!

xxx dr.c.

Enjoy Aline in action here (below)…her workout is crazy:

 

 

The Fallacy of Sexual Freedom: Our Bodies Our Sins

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This quote from Budokon University founder Cameron Shayne, who is a practitioner of his own style of therapeutic yoga, martial arts, and lifestyle interventions, moved me to reflection; particularly the first and last passages:

“We shame our children by teaching them that their naked bodies should be covered, because we ourselves somehow are in sin when nude, or we project our own sexuality on children’s nudity.”

Our culture seems to struggle needlessly when necessarily making nudity and sex mutually exclusive…while there is an undeniable connection, the uncoupling of these concepts…to celebrate our bodies…allows us to enjoy an entirely new experience of expression, freedom, and self-love…which extends to the love of an-other…and ultimately leads to an increase in the love we share for ALL others.

Holding this view, when we then consider our sexuality…and our sexual energy…as connected and yet untied to our bodies…we see that,

“Everything creative and inspiring has an element of sexuality. Sexual energy is creation itself.”

There are so many other levels to this quote that beg to be addressed: the impact of pornography, objectification, and religion…I am hoping some of you readers might continue the discussion…

Happy Hump Day Loverz, dr.c.

Why I Don’t Like “LGBT”

Charly CONCHITA Carlyle:

“Basically, sexuality is more complicated than most people realise. As the above image shows, a person’s sexuality is made up by a wide variety of factors, including their:
biological sex (are they physically male, female, inter-sex, etc.)
gender identity (whether they identify as male, female etc.)
sexual orientation (gay, lesbian, straight, bisexual, etc.)
romantic orientation (who they choose to form strong, intimate relationships with), and
sexual behaviour (pretty straight forward)
My problem with the term “LGBT” (or even LGBTIA) is that tends to ignore all of this and instead focuses on providing everyone with a rigid category to fit them in.
Take me for instance. Biologically, I am male. Gender-wise, I identify as male but I do have some “womanly” characteristics. Strictly speaking, I am bisexual since I am physically attracted to both men and women.”

I don’t think that’s ANYONE’S sexuality/gender-role attachment/biology are all completely in sync…rather they exist on a multi-dimensional, shifting continuum…this reality doesn’t make us “confused” or “overly complicated” it makes us HUMAN and BEAUTIFUL!

Originally posted on Equal Voice:

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Popular Stats on Orgasms: Men vs. Women

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As a statistician, I know statistics are wrong (at least) 40% of the time…however I few things struck me about this flyer I pulled off the internet…and that is THE SIMILARITY BETWEEN MEN’S AND WOMEN’S SEXUAL BEHAVIORS! Honestly, I am not shocked about the 25% differential in orgasm (although I would love to know the sample demographics because I imagine older women wouldn’t report the same, winks)…but the use of toys, masturbation, oral sex, sex to reach orgasm was interestingly similar between the genders (I am assuming this is irrespective of sexual orientation). One other stat caught my eye “25% of men and women feel under pressure to reach orgasm during sex”…really? Do you agree? Why? Curiosity is killing the doctor! dr.c.